The Best We Could?

Posted on December 18, 2006 in Responsibility

I’ve been hearing the phrase “I did the best I could” too much lately. I can accept it from someone in deep depression who just can’t pull his mind together to rise from the bed or read a book, but it is too often the province of those who have adopted a personality disorder and just don’t want to change. There’s another claim that I find more acceptable. That is to state “I didn’t know how to do better”. If this is delivered in honesty, then there is an opportunity for self education and self improvement.

Even in the deepest depression, we can reach just a little bit higher. We shouldn’t allow the dime store thinking of some Twelve Steppers (most of whom have not searchingly and fearlessly completed the Fourth and Fifth Steps) to lead us away from accountability. This is especially true for those who go to support groups for the purpose of remaining the same person that they are. The rest of us should deny them complicity in surrendering to their illness. If they persist, then we are in our rights to just turn our backs on them.

And for us, we should make every effort to look for that next higher crevice, and move our hands and our feet by it to a higher place.

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Here’s a mailing list called 12 Steps Free and a website called More Revealed.